Welcome!

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

A big friendly welcome to @Still-I-Rise! Thanks for being with us here. If you’d like to, tell us about what brought you here, or have a look at the threads we mention above to see if there’s anything you’d like to share there. No pressure though – feel free to just read too 🙂

[Still-I-Rise]

I’m a survivor. Thanks for this forum. I wish I had sought out help at the time but I’m sure it can help us all to see those red flags, discuss and listen and guide us through our struggles.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

You’re welcome Still-I-Rise. A lot of people here have mentioned feeling unable to seek help or talk about what was happening to them while it happened and it’s something we hear a lot on the helpline too. Hopefully on the forum we can all offer that safe space to talk to those who need it, and a space for those like you who are healing from what happened. Thank you so much for joining us.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

Good morning to @Openeyes,@pintsizedyogi and @NJT really good to have you here on the forum. You might like to join in the conversations with other forums users in ‘is it abuse? or ‘abuse from family – being outed’ A new topic in recovery after abuse has been started by a forum user too. We hope you find the forum a useful space for you 🙂 The Helpline Team

[NJT]

Just wanted to introduce myself. My name’s N. (well clearly that’s not my name, but this whole thing feels a little overwhelming and I’d rather go by N for now). I’ve been lurking on a bunch of forums over the past four months or so. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a bit of a rough period, but for a while now I’ve felt like maybe it’s more than just a period, and I’ve started to lose hope of ever reaching the end of said period.

All of the info and forums that I’ve looked at talk about “abusive relationships” and “domestic abuse”, and I hate those words. I feel weird saying “abusive”, because it feels surreal to even consider that that is the situation I might be in. There’s also a part of me that doesn’t want to say it, because I don’t want it to be true.

I don’t feel comfortable telling everything that’s happened because it feels too personal, but I will say I’m in pain both physically and emotionally almost every single day, and I’m not sure how much longer I can take it. I’m so alone in this, and I have no clue what I can do to make it better.

I don’t even know what difference being on here is going to make. I guess maybe I just wanted to get it off my chest. I don’t have any questions or anything like that, and I don’t think I need advice. I just wanted to vent, which I did.

I also just want to say that I do love my boyfriend, and I don’t want to lose him. I just want us to be okay.

Hope you’re all having a wonderful day.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

Hi N,

Really well done for venting and getting this off your chest. This is what the forum is here for. I hear you that you don’t want advice, and we will respect that. This is a little note to say you don’t have to be alone with this and we can talk through or email with you about what is going on. We won’t judge you or make you do anything you don’t want. Sometimes just talking it through can help make sense of a situation 🙂

I’m going to add your post into ‘Is it abuse?’ Topic too, as more people may see it there.

The helpline is Freephone 0800 999 5428 help@galop.org.uk

We are here for you,

The Helpline Team

[Thesulli1995]

Hello! 🙂 I am well call me by my username or A. I am 26 and I am a survivor of domestic abuse. I am still struggling but hopefully talking about my experience will help :)! Lovely to meet you all 🙂

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

Hello A! Thank you so much for being here. It can be a real struggle to be recovering from domestic abuse. But you’re taking an important step in finding ways to heal. I hope that sharing with us here does help.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

I would also like to welcome @Helpinggetaway, @EcclesCake and @tulipany. It’s brilliant that you’ve joined, and you’d be very welcome to share more about yourselves here or in other parts of the forum.

@Helpinggetaway has already started a really important conversation over in Need Support and I’d really welcome contributions from others because I suspect lots of you have very important things to say about the topic of leaving an abusive partner (or family member).

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

Hello @domino and @DrClouseau, welcome to the LGBT+ domestic abuse survivors forum. We hope you can get something you need from the forum and join in the conversations when you feel able to, or use it as a space to get something off your chest.

@Helpinggetaway has already started a really important conversation over in Need Support topic, incase you want to contribute to that.

Also there is a couple of virtual peer to peer support groups coming up, incase these are useful for you to know about http://www.galop.org.uk/lgbt-survivors/forums/topic/virtual-support-groups-for-lgbt-survivors-march-2021/

[domino]

Thank you for the warm welcome.

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

@broken – welcome to the forum. Thank you so much for being here, I hope it’s a healing space for you.

You might want to explore some of the threads that have been mentioned in the posts above; especially the virtual peer-to-peer support groups coming up from London Friend this month. Feel free to tell us more about yourself 🙂

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

Hello @Myvoice welcome to the Forum. I do hope you find it helpful to read community members stories and contribute your own, if you feel that is something you want to do.

http://www.galop.org.uk/lgbt-survivors/forums/topic/will-he-change/ has recently been posted on incase this is of interest to you. Or you may like to share your story http://www.galop.org.uk/lgbt-survivors/forums/forum/share-your-story/ here

Also there is a couple of virtual peer to peer support groups coming up, incase these are useful for you to know about http://www.galop.org.uk/lgbt-survivors/forums/topic/virtual-support-groups-for-lgbt-survivors-march-2021/

Wishing you a good day 🙂

The Helpline team

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

A warm welcome to @Late, who has just joined us here. Feel free to tell us more about yourself or perhaps visit one of the other threads to share what brought you here, or just have a read of what other community members have shared.

Some virtual peer to peer support groups are coming up soon, organised by LGBT charity London Friend, if these are useful for you to know about http://www.galop.org.uk/lgbt-survivors/forums/topic/virtual-support-groups-for-lgbt-survivors-march-2021/

Thanks for joining!
The Helpline Team

[Domestic Abuse Helpline Team]

Hello @CrystalLady and @Sillybint, welcome to the LGBT+ domestic abuse survivors forum. We hope you can get something you need from the forum and join in the conversations when you feel able to, or use it as a space to get something off your chest. Thanks for being here 🙂

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