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National Helpline for LGBT+ Victims and Survivors of Abuse and Violence0800 999 5428

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Domestic violence and abuse and LGBT+ communities

This information sheet offers advice on what constitutes domestic violence and abuse and outlines some of the unique aspects of domestic abuse as experienced by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender + (LGBT+) people. Your safety should always be your first priority and if you are ever in immediate danger, call the police on 999. Local domestic abuse services should be able to provide support. If you need confidential advice from an LGBT+ specific service, you can contact the National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0800 999 5428.

What is domestic violence and abuse?

The UK Government defines domestic violence and abuse as any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. This can encompass but is not limited to psychological, physical, sexual, financial and emotional abuse.

Controlling behaviour is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.

Coercive behaviour is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

Domestic abuse also includes forced marriage, so-called ‘honour’-based violence and female genital mutilation.

Forced marriage is where one or both people do not consent to the marriage, and pressure or abuse is used. Forced marriage is recognised in the UK as a form of violence against men and women, domestic abuse, child abuse, and is a serious abuse of human rights.

Honour’-based abuse is a crime or incident, which has or may have been committed to protect or defend the honour of the family and/or community.

Domestic abuse can be perpetrated in the home, workplace or a public place, as well as by phone, text message or online.

Domestic abuse is a crime that affects individuals across all cultures, sexual orientations, gender identities, income groups, ages, and religions.

LGBT+ people’s experiences of domestic abuse

There are many parallels between LGBT+ people’s experiences of domestic abuse and that of their heterosexual cisgender peers. This includes the impact on the survivors and a range of violent behaviours which may include psychological, physical, sexual, financial and emotional abuse, forced marriage and so-called ‘honour’-based violence.

In addition, LGBT+ people may also have their sexuality and gender identity used against them as a tactic for the abuser to keep the power and control in the relationship.

These additional factors often underpin the complexity of issues LGBT+ survivors face and include the following abusive behaviours

  • Intimidation and threats of disclosure of sexual orientation and gender identity to family, friends, work colleagues, community and
  • Disclosing gender history, sexual orientation or HIV status without
  • Undermining the sense of sexual and/or gender identity/self-expression, or making a person feel guilty or ashamed of their sexual orientation and gender
  • Limiting or controlling access to LGBT+ spaces or
  • Using immigration law to threaten a person with deportation to the country of origin, which might be unsafe due to g. anti-gay legislation.

LGBT+ survivors may also be coerced or manipulated to believe:

  • That no help or support is available to them because they identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, or that for this reason, they deserve the abuse
  • That driven by societal misconceptions of what constitutes domestic abuse, LGBT+ survivors have not been subject to domestic abuse

Trans specific abuse may include:

Trans survivors are one of the most hidden groups of domestic abuse survivors. While trans and cisgender people may face similar patterns of abuse, many trans survivors also face specific forms of abuse related to their trans identity.

  • Outing a person as trans and/or disclosing their gender history without
  • Deliberately using the wrong pronoun or using a person’s ‘deadname’.
  • Forcing a person to perform a gender they do not wish to present
  • Coercing a person into not pursuing gender transition (including denying or withholding access to medical treatment or hormones )
  • Ridiculing or exotifying body or body
  • Assaulting medically altered body parts or forcing exposure of surgical
  • Exploiting internalised

With specific reference to LGBT+ people’s experiences, domestic abuse can encompass the following forms:

  • Psychological – (Threat of) disclosing sexual orientation, gender identity, HIV status or any other personal information to family, employers, friends etc, without Using other personal characteristics or circumstances, such as an individual’s race, age, immigration status, religion, physical ability and/or ethnicity, against a person.
  • Physical – Pushing, hitting, punching, choking, biting, throwing things, assault with a weapon, withholding medication, forced substance abuse, hurting pets, damage to property, controlling food intake, stalking or murder.
  • Sexual – Unwanted advances, unwanted sexual contact, corrective rape, rape, forced sex, intentional exposure to HIV or sexually transmitted infections, incest, or the filming and distribution of sexually explicit images or video without
  • Financial – Controlling money and resources, forcing/coercing a person to pay for most things, forcing/coercing a person to live beyond their means, or taking out loans in the individual’s name without their consent
  • Emotional – Name-calling and insults, lying, belittling, and undermining self-esteem, undermining gender identity or sexuality, manipulation, humiliation, threats of suicide, self-harm, limiting an individual’s movement or monitoring whereabouts.