Hi @Helpinggetaway – thank you so much for joining us here. You’re doing this right; I’m so glad you’re asking about this because thinking about leaving is such an important and scary time, and asking for help and information to do it safely and in the right way for you is key.
It sounds like it could be really helpful for you to have the support of a domestic abuse organisation for this. Anyone who supports you will be going at your pace and not rushing you to tell them anything or make decisions you’re not ready for. But you won’t be the first person they’ll have supported who has had to lie and say something was an accident, or who had to turn down support. This is really common for people experiencing abuse.
If you’d like to talk to us directly, you can call on 0800 999 5428, or e-mail help@galop.org.uk. We can find your local support services and put you in touch with them, if that’s what you want.
I will let other users chip in – I’m sure they’ve got a lot to say about some of the things they struggled with around leaving, and also what helped them and made it possible for them to get out.
Take care,
The helpline team