Hi Elf not on a shelf,
Thanks for sharing this, and I would like to say how sorry I am that you experienced this in your marriage. That should never have happened to you or your son. It sounds like you did the best you could to manage her behaviour and be an understanding and caring partner. That says a lot positive things about you, even though the context was very difficult. We know from talking to people on the helpline it can be so difficult to identify what is abuse especially when you may have complicated feelings towards them and love them. It sounds like you were a committed partner.
The Helpline Team
