Thank you for this wonderful reply, @Strong. I know it’s so helpful for people being harmed by their partners to hear about these experiences and understand their own situations better because of it. I wanted to say that I slightly edited one thing you said your partner said to you, just in case it makes you more identifiable here. But I think what you put really captures how belittling (literally! Your partner tried to make you feel like a small child) is such a core part of emotional abuse. No one should try to make you feel this way. I’m sorry that your partner does this. It’s not ok.